Feelin' 22: Advice, now that I'm (sort of) Wise.11:06 PM
When I turned 21, I wrote down '21 things I had learned by age 21". It was silly.. I think it started out with "Long island iced teas don't actually have tea in them". I was young and kind of an idiot. I still kind of am, but I like to think that most days, I'm a functioning half-adult.
Anyway, my birthday was fabulous and I really enjoyed myself. I got to blow some money on a pair of "big girl pants" at H&M, and eat filet mignon with Jess. All around I went to bed with a smile on my face. A big thank you to all my friends and family who made my birthday meaningful and special! xoxo I la-la-loooove you all.
To carry on with some type of birthday tradition (that I just started last year), I'll give you some more "seasoned and wise" advice now that I've celebrated the one year anniversary of my 21st birthday. God damn, I'm old.
1// Filet Mignon is just a classier Ribeye. And it's more expensive. Before I ordered my meal on Tuesday, I called my dad and asked what the difference was. Apparently it's a different part of the cow, and the ribeye has more fat. Maybe that's why it's more expensive. Who knows, I went with the filet because #classy.
2// Tattoos are actually stupid sometimes. I recently had an interview for a student teaching position at a school I applied to a few months ago. I had a really amazing interview with the Principal, and hopefully I'll be placed there. Before I left I mustered up the social courage to ask a few questions - one being "what's the dress code like here?" (I ultimately wanted to avoid wearing something to short or tight). She replied with "no facial piercings and we cover our tattoos here". Merp. That gigantic cross on my ankle really effing sucks now, because I am forever wearing a skirt and heels while teaching.
3// Rejection is inevitable, but that human probably wasn't worth your time. I have a terrible time with any type of rejection. I don't understand it. Like why can't I be universally wanted by all the humans walking the earth? Apparently that's not how life works. Someone smarter than me once said "you can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, but there's still going to be someone out there who hates peaches". The quicker you accept the rejection, the quicker you can find someone who loves the peach that you are. I know this is easier said than done, but it's an important life lesson. Fate has a funny way of working out, even though that dreamy boy or cute girl didn't give you the time of day at the bar. Still slightly bitter whatev.
4// Staying close to your family freaking matters. My family and I have definitely become closer since I left for college. I think the distance helped us all with growing our relationships. My father and I have always been close, and I think that's because he's 700 miles away. I often wish he wasn't, but maybe I wouldn't be so fortunate to have him if things had been different. My mother and I are now building the relationship I've been hoping to have for a long time. She's one of the most hardworking people I've ever met, and she inspires me to be strong. My sister might as well be the child I'll never had. I think about her wellbeing daily. These relationships are so significant now that I'm older, and I encourage everyone to develop strong relationships with whoever they call "family".
5// Building relationships with coworkers and superiors are important, too. #networking. I'm still close to my 8th grade social studies teacher. This was probably one of the best decisions I've ever made, because he has been teaching for 14 years and can be a reference on my resume. He's also insanely awesome and asked me to intern in his class. At this point in life, networking is important. It's so easy, too! Just get on the good side of professors, bosses, managers, etc etc.
6// Being in love takes work. It isn't all rainbows and butterflies. That being said, it should be relatively easy with the right person. Everything should fall into place pretty naturally, but I'm not saying you wont have freaking annoying days together. I have learned that certain days won't be a 50-50 give and take. Some days, I'm putting more into the relationship than my partner, while other days I couldn't be bothered to put in 2 percent. The overall picture should be immensely bright when it comes to love, but some details will take some time working themselves out. As long as you have some trust, friendship, laughter, and kisses, you'll probably be okay.
7// Be happy in your skin. It has literally taken me twenty-two years to be completely comfortable in my own skin. I don't just mean my physical features, but my quality of character as well. I'll be completely honest - I've lost a good amount of friends and companions due to becoming more in tune with my own self, but I am happy because I am me, 100 percent of the time. I think once you're happy with yourself, the rest just kind of doesn't matter. Yes - I am aware that people talk about me and people do not like me, but the reality is that I like me - that's what's important.
I'm also dedicating this post to my little sister, who is amazing and I hope has learned from my mistakes growing up. Cheers everybody, Feelin' 22!