A Letter to my Younger Self

Dear 14 year old Rhiannon,

After 22 years of weird, fun, crazy experiences, I think I have some advice that will help you. Take it to heart and really try to follow it. I promise that it works out in your favor if you do. The age you're at is hard, and it will only become more confusing and difficult. It's important to have a set of values that ground you, calm you, and help you. You will learn very quickly that the one person you have 100% of the time is yourself, so take it from me (your older self) - this advice is important:

  • Stay focused and stay organized. Find the things that motivate you and latch on to them. Motivation is contagious, so don’t be afraid to be a leader in this department. Sit in the front of the classroom, ask questions, strive to learn something new everyday, and if you don't understand something, ask a teacher. Chances are, someone else has the exact same question as you. Stay focused on the path that you have created for yourself. Try not to worry too much about the paths that other people are on, only yours matters in the long run.
  • Set goals and constantly work to achieve them. Remember that goals can be as big or as small as you want them to be, you just need to focus on taking the time to plan them out. This will allow you to work towards your dreams and aspirations one step at a time and before you know it, you'll be accomplishing incredible things."
  • I can guarantee that you will never look back and think “I wish I hadn’t studied and worked as hard as I did”, but I know that there will be many people who think the opposite. They wish they had worked harder towards their goals. Don’t be one of the people who regrets not giving life their all. It will certainly pay off in the future.

  • Get involved. There are going to be so many extra curricular activities that you can be a part of. Find a sport, instrument, hobby, or club that you thoroughly enjoy. Immerse yourself in it and soak up as much extra knowledge and experiences as possible. With that being said, try something new. It’s okay if you don’t think you’ll completely enjoy it - try it anyway. It will open your eyes up to new ways of thinking.
  • Be yourself. Take this time to find yourself, change yourself, and then find yourself again. I know it doesn’t seem like it now, but being different is okay. Your popularity in high school will absolutely not matter once you are an adult, so you might as well be yourself instead of trying to fit in with the crowd. Do not get discouraged. All those amazing, different, weird qualities that you have - NO ONE ELSE has them. Embrace them. Experience them. Love them.
  • If you want something, go get it. Dont let anyone tell you that you are unable to accomplish your goals. They are wrong. If you fail, try again. Mistakes are okay, and failing is a part of learning. No one is an expert at everything the first time. With that being said, forgive people for their mistakes, and help them get back up if they fail.
  • Don’t forget to laugh. Life is fun, exciting, and worth smiling about.Sometimes, it's going to feel easier to focus on the negatives, but you've got to remind yourself that there are so many wonderful and positive things in the world to focus on instead. If you’re having trouble noticing that, try taking a walk outside and noticing how gorgeous the sky is. If that doesn’t work, try playing fetch with your dog and recognizing how ecstatic he is to be doing nothing more than catching a ball with you. If you can’t find one reason that life is worth smiling about, ask for help. There is no shame in that.

  • I’ll follow that with the cliche but very true saying - IT GETS BETTER.
  • We as people never self congratulate ourselves, but we should start. So let me take the first step by saying YOU are going to accomplish great things. Be proud of the things you do and never stop reaching for the stars.

This is just the beginning. Keep creating, keep inspiring, and keep dreaming. Believe in yourself, be kind, and never give up on your hopes and dreams because nothing is impossible.

What would you tell your younger self if you had the chance?