The Different Kind Of Friends I Have

I am fortunate enough to have made some amazing friendships since I moved to Denver, each with their unique personalities and zest that they bring to our little group. I love how these friendships blossomed. We started out as a "fab 5", and quickly grew into a tight-knit group of women who I'm happy to call my "adult friends". Our group is wildly different, but I think that's what makes us so special - each of us brings something to the table in this relationship. For me, I can "type" my friends very easily, and I love them all for the ways they've helped my life improve.

I wanted today's post to shed a little light on just how blessed I am to have a group of girls who make me feel so loved. These are just a few of the women (as there are many more I could mention, and probably will in a second post) I get to call my friends here in Colorado:

The ambitious friend: C is a powerhouse of a woman, and one of the few people I've met who has a passion for entrepreneurship that matches mine. This is the friend who calls me at 5:30 AM to wake me up & tells me to crush my goals for the day. She's the friend who works on a Saturday because she wants to be able to take our friend group on a vacation in the next 3 years. C works her ass off and pushes everyone around her to do the same.

The wise friend: When I feel lost, confused, or unsure of what to do, I call "Kitty Cat". Her patience and calm demeanor help me relax, and she pushes me to work through the problem, while also serving me k i l l e r advice. I don't have to worry about being judged when I come to her, and I appreciate that more than anything because it shows me that even when I mess up, there's someone I can turn to who will say "ok, let's fix the problem. It's going to be okay". She's one of those people that can walk into a room and calm everything down - and for a person like me, that's needed more often than not.

The protective friend: We'll call this friend Taurus. I've always been drawn to astrology, even when I think it's not real, and I've always gotten along well with Taurus women. As friends, we work so well together. This tiny Taurus is no different. She was one of my first friends in Denver after a failed engagement, and she carried me through many tear-filled,anxiety-inducing, depressing as hell nights. She reminded me of my self-worth and protected me from the thoughts in my head. I can't speak for her, but I hope I did the same. I'm fortunate to have met someone who could understand part of my situation and offers support when I felt I had no one. Now, she has my back through anything, and she keeps me safe. She's the person I would call if I needed back up in a fight - because I'm pretty sure NO ONE can win against a Scorpio and a Taurus.

The sweetheart friend: I thought I had escaped the pet name "darlin" when I left the south, but it came back into my life in the form of a teeny tiny blonde haired girl, who I'll call Tokyo. If this girl had an aura, it'd be bright yellow, she's that bubbly and sweet. I can always count on her to be a smiling face in the crowd, ready to give a big hug when I'm down. Her kindness is kind of contagious, and I thoroughly miss seeing her long blonde hair walk through the door on a Friday night. 

The "We're finally bonding!" friend: This one took a while, mainly because I'm skeptical and closed off. When I've got an idea about someone, it's hard for me to let it go. S has actually been "in" my life longer than most of these people I'm mentioning, but it wasn't until New Year's Eve that we really started getting to know each other. It's amazing what kind of friendship can be built when I let go of being stubborn and unwilling to let people in. Now, S is one of my favorite people to be around, and I'm thankful for her ability to get to know me.

The friend who reminds me, of me: I met SL on the night of her 21st birthday, the same night I met A. Since then, I've learned that SL reminds me so much of myself at that age that it's scary. I feel a particularly special connection to this one because I'm able to talk with her about attributes of our personalities without feeling like the person just isn't "getting it". She reminds me of the edginess that I carried within me at 21, and zest for life that kept me full of new experiences. She also reminds me of how much love I wanted to give people at 21, while still trying to figure out myself and how to make me happy. I feel honored to have her in my life because she reminds me that it's okay to be exactly who I am.

The Scorpio friend: M is the other Scorpio in our group, and I especially appreciate her because of how different we are (which I suppose debunks my idea that Astrology is all-knowing). I think if you put M and I side by side you would never understand why we were friends, but for me, that's what makes M fun to be around. I think she helps me see a different side of "Scorpios" - strong, quiet, observing; while I'm much more "in your face". M is the person who I would call if I wanted to do something low key, or when I want to go out and learn about the world. I like her sense of structure and her friendliness that comes out especially when we're all sitting around A's apartment discussing life, books, and anything other than drinking at Charlie's. I like having a friend who is different from me, but who I also feel deeply connected to because #Scorpios! 

The "bottom line" friend: I remember the exact moment that I met A. I remember what I wore, where I was; I can even remember what my makeup looked like. Maybe one day I'll tell that story, but today I want to tell you about a moment where A and I discussed her "bottom line". For the past 6 months, she and I have had a relationship that sat on the fence of "best friend" and "girlfriend". We (well, I) needed to take our time, for a multitude of reasons, and today we have a healthy relationship. When we first started discussing the possibilities of getting into a committed relationship, the bottom line was that we both wanted to be in each other's lives, regardless of how a romantic relationship played out. That meant that even when we struggle, even if we don't work out as a couple, we're still committed to being friends because we help lift each other up. I think that's why A and I work (one of the many reasons) - we wake up every day and choose to be in each other's lives.

I feel so lucky to have these women as my support system, along with a handful of other women who make me laugh, smile, and everything in between. Cheers to you all.